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Journey to Wellness
August 2017 was the last time I ate bacon. If you knew me 4-5 years ago then you knew I loved bacon. I had made the conscious decision a year prior to 2017 to give up beef and pork, but bacon was my favorite so weening myself off of it was a process. As much as I loved bacon, I have never reverted back to eating it. In 2018 I started on my vegan journey, and by 2019 had gone strictly vegan. By the end of 2019 and into 2020 I started eating chicken and fish again; as I've said before beginning a life of veganism is a process. Eating and cooking with my other half was the gateway to eating animals again. Last year during the quarantine I ordered food because of the convenience, and I was eating wrong! I ate cow's cheese, chicken, and fish, and stopped working out. I'm always highly motivated in the beginning of any practice, but somewhere along the lines I lose motivation.
Wellness can be equated with Wholeness. You're not completely well until you're completely whole. What I mean by that is, in order to be well you must heal and practice wellness in every area of your life. For optimum health we must practice healthy eating habits, exercise, yoga(stretching), meditation and mindfulness. Wholeness focuses on us becoming well rounded people. Health and wholeness means a healthy mind, spirit, and body. We want the whole person to be well and healthy. Many people make new year's resolutions to exercise or lose weight, and many resolutions fall through the cracks by February. Wellness is a journey, it's not a lifestyle change overnight. As I've said before, we are taught our eating habits by the family and household we grew up in. It took years of conditioning to eat these foods, therefore it will take years of conditioning to eat healthy foods.
Designing an exercise regimen that fits your individual lifestyle is key. Some people wake up extra early to workout in the mornings, while others workout after work or in the evenings. Everything is tied together, what you eat, what you drink, exercise, and spiritual practices. Meditation is one of the best things to uplift a tired soul. Going within helps you to see what is blocking you, and what next steps to take. Yoga opens up your joints and allows for flexibility and mobility. What you put into your body is very important; from the foods you eat to the supplements you take. Illness can not reside in an alkaline body. Alkaline water and foods help bring the body into optimal health. If you're vegan right now and eating alkaline foods, drinking alkaline water, and taking organic natural supplements you are giving your body what it needs on the inside. Meditation is also a form of giving your body what it needs on the inside. Introspection and quieting the mind help to bring you back into balance with yourself and the Universe.
Make your practices your own, your journey is your own personal journey. Move at your own pace. To begin your wellness journey you may start by cutting out certain foods as I did. Meal planning and meal prep are also great ways to stay organized and on track. Also as a form of spiritual self care, is smudging your home and space with sage, lavender, or incense. Smudging purifies the air and removes staleness and negative energies. Yoga and stretching opens up the spine for flexibility of joints; and also opens up breathing passageways. We want the Whole person to be well. Choose some form of daily self care to boost your mood and motivation.
Illness becomes Wellness when I is replaced with We. We are in this together! Wellness is Wholeness, we treat and heal the Whole person. We want to be whole and complete in everything we do.
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Sunday, January 10, 2021
2020 The Year of Change
Growth is painful but it's necessary. The year 2020 was a year of growth for a lot of us. The year brought many changes around the world and the U.S. I was quarantined at home for 7 months, and for the first 2 months I woke up every day and cried. I was going through a spiritual transformation and didn't really know what to do. Most of us have never been in a pandemic, so we didn't know what to expect. At the onset of the Coronavirus Pandemic I was going through separation anxiety from my soulmate. While trying to make sure my parents, children, and siblings were alright; I neglected to properly take care of myself. I wasn't depressed, but spiritually I was going through this metamorphosis. By the third month I had began having weekly tarot readings. Every reading pretty much said the same thing. I was on my way to gaining control of my life. I started doing shadow work, and I had my first Distance Reiki Healing.
After The Reiki session I felt lighter and I had gained a lot of insight on my situation and life. After a couple more months I attained more clarity and direction. I instituted working out daily and implemented more self care. Many days I woke up feeling overwhelmed, not knowing what the day would bring. Each day I tried filling my time with exercise, reading, cooking, and tarot readings to try and make some sense of what was going on in the world. For months I would hear about people dying because of the Coronavirus, but no one I was close to. To take my mind off of death, sickness, and Covid-19, I decided to continue to work on myself. I conducted tarot/oracle readings on myself as a form of self care, and to seek insight into what I needed most in my life.
Shadow work, tarot readings, and meditating helped to relieve anxiety over the unknown. I decided to surround myself with positivity and positive people, or I spent most of my time alone. I was alone in the house for months, but the alone time aided in me healing from past life traumas. Working on myself during this time of crisis was the best thing I could've ever done. I learned a lot about myself; I learned what I want in my life and what I definitely don't want. I learned that I have a strength and power in me so strong, that I can actually overcome anything. I fought for myself! I grew in areas I never knew existed. I acquired knowledge of what deal breakers are for me. I became intuned with my soul. The year 2020 brought hurt, pain, death, and grief but it also brought learning experiences, evolution, change, and growth.
I started school at Shaw Academy for a diploma in Alternate Therapies while I was quarantined at home. I learned new ideas to enhance my businesses. In August I returned to work after 7 whole months. In those 7 months I became whole. In July my publishing company began the work of publishing an anthology written by 7 dynamic ladies. This anthology also opened up doors to healing for myself and these great authors. The year 2020 brought so many changes our way, some welcomed and some not so much but we made it through. Change, Growth, Evolution, are all inevitable and they are much needed to take us to the next level on our journeys through this life. As the old cliché expounds, "no pain no gain". In order to move to the next level or advance in this life we must endure some pain beneficial to growth. Many people don't accept change easily, but its needed to advance as spiritual beings. With that being said, I am all the more better for having gone through this pandemic the way I did. So many changes in me transpired over the 7 months I was home. In 2021 I'm rolling out new services and products for my businesses. Who would've thought that a Global Crisis could change our lives for the better???
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Tuesday, November 24, 2020
Purple Poet Passion Blog: Changing Direction and Vibrating Higher
Changing Direction and Vibrating Higher
My publishing company, Purple Poet Publishing LLC recently published an anthology entitled, "Changing Direction and Vibrating Higher: Telling Our Stories, Evolving, Becoming". In this epic book seven ladies whom I know personally, all tell their stories of life and loss but also stories of purpose and life altering experiences. I woke up one summer morning in July with the title and concept for the book in my head. I had a vision during the night to gather nine ladies at the time to write this awesome book. Two of the young ladies had to bow out of the project gracefully because they had prior responsibilities.
Each lady's story is unique, but they all have a common thread that unites them. Each queen saw her life spiraling out of control and she decided to make a change, or changes to vibrate on a higher frequency. Every living thing emits a vibration, but life and stress can lower our vibrations and we're left feeling sluggish, fatigued, and depressed. With this book I wanted to capture REAL, RAW emotion. The authors of this book hold nothing back. They are transparent as they allow a peak into their struggles, and ultimately their success.
The dictionary defines direction as: a course along which someone or something moves, the course which must be taken in order to reach a destination, a general way in which someone or something develops, and general aim or purpose. Sometimes we may feel like our lives have no direction and we're wandering around aimlessly, lost. There is purpose for your pain! You have the power inside of you to change the course of your life. Meditate, take spiritual baths, get a massage, open up your mind and unlock all of the potential you hold inside.
If you want to read some amazing stories of worth, change, growth, evolving, and becoming then this is the book for you! These ladies don't sugar-coat anything, they tell it like it is. Spirit chose these ladies for such a time as this to tell their stories and yours. Some of you may be living their stories right now. Each experience is idiosyncratic and distinctive to each queen. You may find parts of yourself in each chapter. Let's celebrate life, womanhood, queendom, telling our stories, evolving, and becoming!
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Tuesday, December 31, 2019
Midlife Crisis or True Awakening Part 2(a.k.a. Life at 50)
I walk around the house freely in just my panties, unless my son is home. I placed my vision board on the wall over my office workspace. I so needed this to get myself together. Sometimes I just need to be alone with my thoughts and myself so I can focus on me and what I need to do next. My life is my own to do whatever it is I want to do.
On my altar I have a palo santo stick and a sage/lavender bundle to ward off negative energy and dispel negative vibes. My goal is to live a life of peace, especially in my home.... My Sacred Space. I love the peace and quiet. All of my children are finding their way and doing some things without me. As a mother I will always be there, and I am still there for them but I needed my own space.
I have lived to be half a century old, and before turning 50 I always lived with someone or someone lived with me. I have taken care of everyone else; now it's time to take care of me and live my life. I plan to live life to the fullest and live it the way I want to; in a way that is fulfilling to me. I'm not here to impress people; I'm just here to live my best life. My intent was never to hurt my children, but to help me. Some of them needed a little push to go out into the world and find themselves. I don't want them to wait as long as I did to learn who they are and who they are destined to become.
I am not in the middle of a midlife crisis, but a true awakening to who I am. There are things that I have never done that I intend to do before I leave this lifetime. I'm not going to do anything as radical as motorcycle racing or bungee jumping, but there are things that I want to experience in this body. Self care is the ultimate form of self love. Meditation, yoga, drinking water, healthy eating, vacationing, trips to the spa, communing with nature are all forms of self care. These things have become an intricate part of my life. During meditation I go inside myself and see who I really am. You will never find peace or happiness in sources outside of yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness. Remember, god is introspection and god is love. Go within and find the god in you, and there you will find all of the love you need.
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Sunday, October 6, 2019
Midlife Crisis or True Awakening?
Last month I crossed the half a century mark. Yes, I turned 50 years old on August 5th. About 3-4 years before my 50th birthday I began to feel unfulfilled and lost. I was seeking for answers in church and the Bible but found no solution to my problem. I started to seek within myself for answers instead.
During this 3-4 year time period I learned a lot about myself. I learned who I am, and who I was born to be. I am now at a point in my life where my focus is to make me happy. Others can be happy in the process, but my focus is now on me. My children are grown, I'm divorced and don't have a husband to cater to. I live life on my terms and do what pleases my soul. I think I look pretty good for my age. I wear what accentuates my body. Some people may feel that some of the things I wear are not appropriate for someone my age but I give no fu@ks.
I recently made the decision to finally live alone, without my children. At the end of this month I will be moving out of the apartment with the now 5 of my 6 children and moving to a 2 bedroom house. I have been looking forward to this for quite some time. It's not so much about getting away from my children as it is about getting away to me. Since I began evolving I don't wear clothes when I'm home, and I don't wear pajamas or a nightgown when I go to bed. I walk around my bedroom in just my panties. I want to walk around my house the same way. I have a vision for this new place of residence. It will be a home of serenity. I'm putting a plant in each room; plants like the spider plant, snake plant, and lavender. There will also be crystals in each room, and a fountain in the living room. I'm looking forward to enjoying the place I call home and pay rent and bills for.
There is so much to live for at 50 and beyond. I'm happy with who I am and who I'm becoming. This new life is about freedom and liberation. It's about finding and being your true, authentic self. I don't care what people think about me and I don't need anyone's approval to do anything. I'm ready to take trips, start more businesses, have awesome sex, and live Unapologetically Ever After. Fifty is the new thirty!
Sunday, July 14, 2019
Journey Within
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When I started on the journey to find myself about 4 years ago; I was looking for me. I was on a journey to find out what makes Michelle who she is and what she's becoming. As I have grown on this journey I have learned about my lineage and why I might have gone through some of the things that I experienced.
I learned that on my father's side of the family we share a bloodline to people who are indigenous to this land. A friend of mine has always said that he is indigenous to this country, and his family didn't derive from Africa. My dad has great grandparents who were Cherokee Indians. I agree with my friend that maybe we're not all descendents of Africans or slaves. Some of us are direct descendents of American Indians.
I created a personal alter to manifest the peace and other things I need in my home. I use crystal for healing and different manifestations. There are candles(Chakra), Native Soul Sage and Lavender incense, and a sage bundle. The thing that really topped it off was the photo of my dad's great grandparents that I was able to print from our family page on Facebook. This way I am able to honor my ancestors and their legacy.
I most definitely do not deny my African heritage. I'm sure on either side that somewhere down the line I have ancestors who came from Africa. I proudly wear the titles: queen, goddess, empress. I have learned to channel my inner Egyptian Empress. Khamit (modern day Kemet) is the way of Egypt that means, "Land of black people". I wear the label, "black"; because I am black, I come from the land of black, and black is the beautifulist thing I have ever seen! It's an honor to be black. It's an honor to be indigenous to this land as a black native.
When I began the journey within I was on a spiritual journey to find self. I got a lot more than I bargained for. I learned about my ancestors and why I look the way I do. I am cognizant of the fact that some generational curses could have derived from either side of my family. I am more mindful of how these things play a part in my life and my kid's lives. I understand me better and the choices I make. I overstand that this journey isn't just about me, but being the Black Sheep means I am here to break those generational curses and help create generational wealth.
Saturday, May 4, 2019
Can You Love, or Be In Love With Two People at The Same Time?
The question has come across my table; "Can someone love or be in love with two people at the same time?" If you've been reading my books, following my blog and my Sunday Lives then you know I write and speak from my own personal experiences. My answer to this question is, YES. Let me be clear, this is not a ploy to condone cheating. Sometimes the right people come into your life at the wrong time, and you're meant to be together just not at that time. Sometimes there are unresolved issues in either you or the other person that need to be dealt with before you can be together.
Two and a half years ago I met a man in a business transaction. I bought a car and needed a repair to the aux cord on my radio. The owner of the dealership recommended a guy he uses for his car radios. I met the guy at his business establishment and there was an instant connection and definite chemistry between the two of us. We began talking on the phone and texting one another. We went on one date after about a month or two of talking and texting. We would meet up somewhere sometimes and just talk. We had really become good friends. He was in a relationship, and he and his girlfriend lived together. At the time my ex-boyfriend was living with me, but our relationship was over. This guy and I were friends, although we both recognized the connection and strong chemistry between us.
Later that same year I began conversing through Facebook Messenger with a Facebook and Instagram friend who was also the younger brother of one of my old friends and classmates. Before I actually encountered this man I had been reading and learning about twin flames, and the difference between twin flames and soulmates. I didn't fully understand twin flames at the time, but I was learning more and more each day. I started researching twin flames, and twin flame unions. The twin flame union is the highest and ultimate relationship that humans can experience. Just talking to this man I knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that he was my twin flame. When we first met in person, hugging him confirmed things for me. Hugging him gave me the sense of home, like I was where I belonged. Experiencing this type of love and relationship helped me to understand twin flame dynamics that much more. I am in love with this man!
There have been many obstacles in the way of this twin flame relationship; some caused by me and some caused by him. A relationship is controlled by both people, so we both had a hand in the demise of the relationship. At the end of 2018 my twin flame broke up with me, deleted me and blocked me on social media, and blocked my phone calls. A breakup is almost always difficult, but this breakup was puzzling to me because he broke up with me for trying to talk to him about something very important that concerned us both. My friend and I were still friends, and had remained "Just Friends" over the two year period. I messaged my twin flame on YouTube and email because I was blocked on every other platform of communication. I had surgery in February and reached out to my twin flame, and he never responded until a month later on his birthday. The conversation was quick and casual. A few weeks later there was death in my twin flame's family, and we were both close to this person so he called to let me know. I went to visit him and the family and my love for him was still very prevalent. As my twin flame I know my love for him will never end.
During my recovery from surgery my friend visited me, and we talked almost every day. We started dating and we would see one another quite often. Our feelings for one another became stronger, and we became more than just friends. We eventually became physically intimate and that strengthened our friendship/relationship. Now we're at the point where we verbally and physically express our love for each other. Even though I love this man, I am still in love with my twin flame. There is nothing in this world that compares to the touch of my twin flame. A simple casual touch from his hands sends a sensation through my body like he's making love to my body.
I am in love with my twin flame; there is no doubt about that but I also love my friend. My friend and I have been attracted to one another since the moment we met over 2 years ago, but the timing wasn't right. After my twin flame broke up with me my friend was there for me. Although I love my friend, I am in love with my twin flame and I have never experienced anything close to a relationship like ours. Sex with my twin flame is something out of this world. As I've said before, your twin is a mirror to your soul. Your twin shows you the things in you that need healing, and you heal to help them heal. Twin flames are very strong and can manifest things together when both flames are on the same page. I have seen in my own spirit the things that my twin flame and I could manifest and have, but it would take us both meditating and coming together. We will always be one. We were one soul before we ever came together physically. The physical intimacy (Into Me See) made our bond stronger. I am him, and he is me, we are one soul. We can be with other people but that won't change the fact that we are twin flames. Nothing can break the bond between us. The Universe brought us together; it is up to us to put in the work.
As for my friend, we are becoming closer. We are mentally and physically compatible. Leos and Libras are highly compatible. We both own businesses, we're both conscious, and family is important to both of us. We're both creative with our hands and we enjoy the arts. On the other hand my twin and I experience mental telepathy; and we have experienced a transference of energy. My twin and I have experienced some things that can't be explained for carnal minds to understand. Right now I'm torn between my twin flame and my friend who is fastly becoming my man. I don't agree with the, "Love Is Love" campaign that's going around because it taints love and says that adults loving and having sex with kids is okay. The campaign also promotes homosexuality and beastiality. I do however subscribe to the fact that if my twin and I hadn't broken up I never would've fully developed an intimate relationship with my friend. My friend is a soulmate and we share many of the same ideals and ideas. We're both go-getters and ambitious people. We talk to each other about any and everything. I can easily and safely express myself to him. My twin tests me every step of the way, and that is one of the key dynamics of a twin flame union. Your twin makes you better, and shows you the real you. Looking at your twin is like looking in a mirror, they are a reflection of you as they reflect back to you who you truly are and they help you to become who you will ultimately be.
It's difficult being torn between the man you're in love with and wanted to spend the rest of your life and lifetime with, and the man you love as a friend and more. I don't wish this merry-go-round on anybody. The truth is, maybe we don't choose who loves us and how people come into our lives, but we do get to choose who we love. Somewhere the ultimate choice must be made. On one hand I have a man that I love and I'm in love with; heaven and earth have been moved when we're together.On the other hand, I love a man that is my friend and I am highly compatible with. In an ideal world I would choose my twin flame, but my twin must choose me back (whether in this life or the next). Twin flame unions can be painful and there is a lot of soul work involved. Both twins must be up for the challenge for the union to be successful. The twin flame union is what each person should aspire to; in this relationship the Universe is granting you your innermost desires.
As Musiq Soulchild said in his song, "The answer is Yes". It is possible to love two people at the same time. I've heard it said before that you can't love two people at once because that means you never actually loved the first person. That statement is not true; I am madly in love with my twin flame, but twin flame relationships can be difficult and if both aren't ready to do the work or if they aren't both ready to confront themselves the union will suffer. I love this man with everything inside me, and I still love my friend too.
Sunday, March 31, 2019
Spring Cleaning
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My Spring cleaning ritual includes: sage smudging to clear out any negative energy, opening windows for fresh air, cleansing my crystals, getting out in nature, and for the last couple of years attending the Naturalopathy Spring Event. The Naturalopathy Spring Event was held yesterday, and for the first time in two years I didn't attend. The Naturalopathy event encompasses all of the vendors and products to start your Spring season off right.
Spring also brings with it pollen and bees. Pollen causes allergic reactions in thousands of people each year. After an encounter with the outside we must cleanse ourselves, or we bring the pollen inside with us. Of course we have to bathe to wash the pollen away, but crystals are another way to cleanse ourselves and our auras. A close friend of mine told me he loves when he encounters me because I have a beautiful aura and I bring light whenever I'm around him. Crystals can be used to clean your aura and protect you from harm.
In the circle of life animals are born in the spring, grass grows and turns green again, flowers bloom, and everything old becomes new again. A new moon begins this Friday, and new moons are a great time to set intentions and do a new thing. So as Spring and April embark upon us we can clean our physical homes(places of residence) and clean our physical houses(our bodies). Do a detox, walk along the beach, go hiking, sage smudge your home, take a detox/spiritual bath. All of these things are excellent practices for a Spring cleaning ritual. Set your intentions for the new moon and Spring season. Happy Spring Cleaning!
Monday, March 11, 2019
Freak Like Me/T-shirt and Panties
I have come to admire Adina for her outspokenness. She has been saying what women have been feeling for years. She's not just outspoken or upfront, but she lives her truth. Whether you or I agree with it, she lives her truth and stands for what she wants. In my 20's I was just going through life and love blindfolded. I didn't know which direction to go, so I fumbled my way through my 20's and 30's. In my early 40's I divorced the only man I had ever been in love with. I was in love with this man for 30 years, since we were both 14 years old. After the divorce I set out on a journey to find me. I found that I was highly sexual, but I had finally gotten to a place where I really enjoyed sex, and I wanted the things that were pleasurable to me.
Last night on Unsung Adina explained how her sexuality was on her terms. Men thought because she was a freak that she would just get freaky with any and everybody. She stated that she was the prize, not the other way around. In my late 40's I met my twin flame, and with him I learned to let go of all of my insecurities and inhibitions. I felt like I could let go and be myself. That seemed to only work with sex. When I wanted to let go and be my unique goddess self, displaying all that makes me who I am; he couldn't handle that. I don't pretend to be something I'm not. I am who I am.
I love sex, especially when it's combined with sensuality. I want to enjoy the experience and the man I'm with. Like Adina, I can be outspoken and speak what's on my heart. Some males are intimidated by outspokenness and realness. I thought I had finally found the man I could open up to and be myself with. I want what I want, but I am willing to compromise. Isn't that what relationships are all about? I was tired of always being the one to compromise and sacrifice,without getting the same in return.
Adina was very candid and transparent about her life. She said that she's defiant, and she likes being defiant. She also recognized the part she played in the downfall of her singing career. She admitted her faults, and although she never compromised her integrity she knew where she was wrong. She has grown and evolved and still gets what she wants. I have learned so much about myself and what I want. I want a man who can bring out every part of the freak in me. A man who will put in as much effort as I do. I want my man to cater to my body as I cater to his. Sometimes I want to be in charge of the bedroom.
I was so impressed by Adina's growth. When she was singing, "Freak Like Me" and"T-shirt and Panties" she was younger and wilder. She has since married her best friend. They divorced but still live together. She still lives her truth. She stated that she got married for sex. She wanted to try everything sexual with her husband. That's how it should be, you marry your best friend, twin flame, soulmate all in one and you both ascend to the highest heights.
Learning, growing, evolving, ascending are all apart of maturing and transforming into the person you're meant to be. When I was married I wore either pajamas or a nightgown to bed every night. Now I sleep in panties, and sometimes nothing at all. I walk around my room in nothing but panties. I would walk around the house that way if I lived alone. I enjoy sex and the connection; it's not just something to do because everybody's doing it. I want my man to lead, then other times I want to lead. I put hella effort into anything I pursue, whether business or relationship. I am the prize, and I won't say that sex, love, and a relationship has to solely be on my terms but I will be heard and I will get what I want and desire. There is a man who is capable of giving me those things. I want a freak like me, and I want to walk around in his t-shirt and my panties.
Sunday, March 3, 2019
Love... All In The Family 💜🖤
I am a mother of 6, yes I said 6 beautiful children. Each one with their own distinctive gifts and talents. My youngest child/son (he has a twin brother) came home from school for the weekend. Four of my six children were home last night and we were talking and enjoying one another. My son and one of my daughters brought me to tears when they talked about how strong I am. They really poured their hearts out to me. They schooled me on the type of man I deserve and the type of man who deserves me.
My son told me he was tired of seeing me with men who had nothing and added nothing to my life. He said he looked at me and how I catered to my man; cooking, washing his clothes, fixing his plate, picking him up and dropping him off, and allowing him to use my car. My son flat out told me that a man should appreciate a woman like me, "You're ambitious and driven. You have business about yourself, you worked hard to take care of us, and run your businesses". My daughter talked about how she learned work ethic from me because I worked and paid my bills. My children never knew about being put out, not having electricity or running water. My daughter said, "You always had your own then these nothing ass niggas(her words, but I have used them before), come into your life without anything to add. They're just leeching off of you."
My kids remembered the family things we did, like taking family vacations, family night on Fridays, and me working to take care of them and provide for them. My heart was so full of joy and love. My children boasted of how they want what's best for me, like I want the best for them. I cried, we hugged. Last night I saw myself in my children. They learned work ethic from me, and hustling to make your dreams come true. They learned the importance of family because family is important to me.
On January 1st of this year I posted a statement on Facebook about my family. My happiness comes from seeing them happy and pursuing their dreams. My children, grandchildren, parents, and siblings are what matters most to me. My man was also a part of that squad. I felt like all I needed was my family and my man (I use the term loosely) and I could accomplish anything. When you're a family person, a business minded person, and you're driven and ambitious you need a mate who is equally family oriented, business minded, and driven. My children told me they want the best for me because I give my best.
My son said, "I want you to have a man who adds to your life, a man who can help you, not a man who benefits more from you than you do from him." My children have always supported me and I support them. My oldest daughter graduated from cosmetology school (like I did). She's a mother, makeup artist, business owner, and author (like her mother). My oldest twin daughter is a mother of 6 (like her mother), she has her own place and car, and works to provide for her household. My other twin daughter is a manager on her job, has her own place, and handles her business. The baby girl is a CNA, has a couple of cars, and has great work ethic (like her mother). My oldest twin son(they're only 19) works at a fast food joint, has a side gig working on houses, and he has recorded rap songs in the studio. My baby has moved to another state, he's in school, has a job, and is about to buy a car and get his own place (he suggested I move to Kentucky). I am so proud of my children and family is everything to me.
I have made some bad decisions when it comes to my children, but they have proven to me that I've made a lot of good decisions. They showed me that I'm a good mother/grandmother, and a great woman. I choose #FamilyOverEverything.
Sunday, February 24, 2019
Fibroids in Black Women and Book Update
Lack of exercise(yoga) and obesity can also attribute to growing fibroids. Over the years we were fed so much misinformation. We were told that diabetes, high blood pressure, and fibroids were hereditary. That is not entirely true. We were taught how to eat by the family we were raised in. Eating pork, beef, chicken with hormones, and anything that comes from animals contributed to us having diabetes, high blood pressure, and fibroids. Had I been raised as a vegan my body would naturally fight off foreign substances like fibroids. As black women we must take our power back when it comes to our bodies and health. We must inform and educate ourselves. As a people we must take control of our bodies and health. Fibroids are non-cancerous tumors that grow inside and outside of a woman's uterus. They can cause painful urination, pain during sex, heavy menstrual bleeding, and excessive periods. A plant based diet, exercise, and yoga can help eradicate fibroids. Essential oils and healing crystals can also help to keep your body and hormones in balance. I will be doing a Purple Poet Sunday Live next Sunday with a little more in-depth information on fibroids in black women. Make sure you're tuned in at 12:30 on Facebook and Instagram.
I just want to throw in a plug about my latest book, "Black Poetry and Soul Consciousness". The cover is done, and it is gorgeous! The cover designer did and awesome job designing the cover. The book will be done by the end of the month. Keep your eyes and ears open for book signings and the Atlanta Summer Bookstore Tour. Peace & Blessings Kings and Queens





































