Can You Love, or Be In Love With Two People at The Same Time?

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The question has come across my table; "Can someone love or be in love with two people at the same time?" If you've been reading my books, following my blog and my Sunday Lives then you know I write and speak from my own personal experiences. My answer to this question is, YES. Let me be clear, this is not a ploy to condone cheating. Sometimes the right people come into your life at the wrong time, and you're meant to be together just not at that time. Sometimes there are unresolved issues in either you or the other person that need to be dealt with before you can be together.

Two and a half years ago I met a man in a business transaction. I bought a car and needed a repair to the aux cord on my radio. The owner of the dealership recommended a guy he uses for his car radios. I met the guy at his business establishment and there was an instant connection and definite chemistry between the two of us. We began talking on the phone and texting one another. We went on one date after about a month or two of talking and texting. We would meet up somewhere sometimes and just talk. We had really become good friends. He was in a relationship, and he and his girlfriend lived together. At the time my ex-boyfriend was living with me, but our relationship was over. This guy and I were friends, although we both recognized the connection and strong chemistry between us.

Later that same year I began conversing through Facebook Messenger with a Facebook and Instagram friend who was also the younger brother of one of my old friends and classmates. Before I actually encountered this man I had been reading and learning about twin flames, and the difference between twin flames and soulmates. I didn't fully understand twin flames at the time, but I was learning more and more each day. I started researching twin flames, and twin flame unions. The twin flame union is the highest and ultimate relationship that humans can experience. Just talking to this man I knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that he was my twin flame. When we first met in person, hugging him confirmed things for me. Hugging him gave me the sense of home, like I was where I belonged. Experiencing this type of love and relationship helped me to understand twin flame dynamics that much more. I am in love with this man!

There have been many obstacles in the way of this twin flame relationship; some caused by me and some caused by him. A relationship is controlled by both people, so we both had a hand in the demise of the relationship. At the end of 2018 my twin flame broke up with me, deleted me and blocked me on social media, and blocked my phone calls. A breakup is almost always difficult, but this breakup was puzzling to me because he broke up with me for trying to talk to him about something very important that concerned us both. My friend and I were still friends, and had remained "Just Friends" over the two year period. I messaged my twin flame on YouTube and email because I was blocked on every other platform of communication. I had surgery in February and reached out to my twin flame, and he never responded until a month later on his birthday. The conversation was quick and casual. A few weeks later there was death in my twin flame's family, and we were both close to this person so he called to let me know. I went to visit him and the family and my love for him was still very prevalent. As my twin flame I know my love for him will never end.

During my recovery from surgery my friend visited me, and we talked almost every day. We started dating and we would see one another quite often. Our feelings for one another became stronger, and we became more than just friends. We eventually became physically intimate and that strengthened our friendship/relationship. Now we're at the point where we verbally and physically express our love for each other. Even though I love this man, I am still in love with my twin flame. There is nothing in this world that compares to the touch of my twin flame. A simple casual touch from his hands sends a sensation through my body like he's making love to my body.

I am in love with my twin flame; there is no doubt about that but I also love my friend. My friend and I have been attracted to one another since the moment we met over 2 years ago, but the timing wasn't right. After my twin flame broke up with me my friend was there for me. Although I love my friend, I am in love with my twin flame and I have never experienced anything close to a relationship like ours. Sex with my twin flame is something out of this world. As I've said before, your twin is a mirror to your soul. Your twin shows you the things in you that need healing, and you heal to help them heal. Twin flames are very strong and can manifest things together when both flames are on the same page. I have seen in my own spirit the things that my twin flame and I could manifest and have, but it would take us both meditating and coming together. We will always be one. We were one soul before we ever came together physically. The physical intimacy (Into Me See) made our bond stronger. I am him, and he is me, we are one soul. We can be with other people but that won't change the fact that we are twin flames. Nothing can break the bond between us. The Universe brought us together; it is up to us to put in the work.

As for my friend, we are becoming closer. We are mentally and physically compatible. Leos and Libras are highly compatible. We both own businesses, we're both conscious, and family is important to both of us. We're both creative with our hands and we enjoy the arts. On the other hand my twin and I experience mental telepathy; and we have experienced a transference of energy. My twin and I have experienced some things that can't be explained for carnal minds to understand. Right now I'm torn between my twin flame and my friend who is fastly becoming my man. I don't agree with the, "Love Is Love" campaign that's going around because it taints love and says that adults loving and having sex with kids is okay. The campaign also promotes homosexuality and beastiality. I do however subscribe to the fact that if my twin and I hadn't broken up I never would've fully developed an intimate relationship with my friend. My friend is a soulmate and we share many of the same ideals and ideas. We're both go-getters and ambitious people. We talk to each other about any and everything. I can easily and safely express myself to him. My twin tests me every step of the way, and that is one of the key dynamics of a twin flame union. Your twin makes you better, and shows you the real you. Looking at your twin is like looking in a mirror, they are a reflection of you as they reflect back to you who you truly are and they help you to become who you will ultimately be.

It's difficult being torn between the man you're in love with and wanted to spend the rest of your life and lifetime with, and the man you love as a friend and more. I don't wish this merry-go-round on anybody. The truth is, maybe we don't choose who loves us and how people come into our lives, but we do get to choose who we love. Somewhere the ultimate choice must be made. On one hand I have a man that I love and I'm in love with; heaven and earth have been moved when we're together.On the other hand, I love a man that is my friend and I am highly compatible with. In an ideal world I would choose my twin flame, but my twin must choose me back (whether in this life or the next). Twin flame unions can be painful and there is a lot of soul work involved. Both twins must be up for the challenge for the union to be successful. The twin flame union is what each person should aspire to; in this relationship the Universe is granting you your innermost desires.

As Musiq Soulchild said in his song, "The answer is Yes". It is possible to love two people at the same time. I've heard it said before that you can't love two people at once because that means you never actually loved the first person. That statement is not true; I am madly in love with my twin flame, but twin flame relationships can be difficult and if both aren't ready to do the work or if they aren't both ready to confront themselves the union will suffer. I love this man with everything inside me, and I still love my friend too.

Black Love 101: What a Woman Needs Pt.2

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Akoma week officially begins February 14th and lasts until February 20th. Akoma week is the international alternative to Valentine's Day. Akoma celebrates 7 virtues and 7 principles for Black Love. The Akoma is an ancient African symbol of divine love and unity, and it's used to represent the sacred science of soulmating. The theme for this year's Akoma celebration is, "Black Love Is Winning". That should be every black couple's mantra for everyday.

Black women are looking for men who will see them as their equal while still understanding and recognizing their weakness. A King wants a Queen, someone who can run the kingdom in his absence. Black women need a man with whom they can be vulnerable, and be themselves with. Black love has endured many trials, many that were forced upon us but it's up to us to RECOGNIZE and RECTIFY. WE have to fix whatever problems we have as a black family. In the near future I will host another Sunday Purple Poet Live Black Love edition. I'm looking to have my brother and host of The Great Liberators Talk Show, Amiri Browner; and my friend and Best Selling Author Quinton Morgan. Quinton is known as "The Relationship Advocate", and he's the author of: "Male Baggage", "Female Baggage", and "Church HURT". These brothers will give us some insight on what men want and need in a woman. Amiri is happily married and Quinton is divorced after 25 years of marriage. Together these brothers bring a wealth of knowledge.

What I want and what I need from a man are basically one and the same. I need a man who listens, and not just talks. Many people don't realize it, but hearing and listening are two totally different things. We as strong black women want and need security and stability from a man. No woman past 25 years of age wants a man who is unstable. Later, sometimes earlier in life you begin to overstand what is important. You don't want to live for 50 years and all you've accomplished is having kids(that you don't take care of), or living with your mama and riding public transportation. We need to know we're safe with you in every aspect of the word. We want to share our deepest secrets without fear of shaming. We want to open up to you and share our lives. We need men who will physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially take care of us. We want a provider and protector. Just as men have expectations of us to cook, clean, wash his clothes, nurse and nurture you, be your sounding board, and be your sex slave. Women also have expectations. I was beginning to think that maybe my expectations were too high, but I'm a queen and my expectations are those of a queen. Expecting a grown man to have a job(business), car, his own place of residence, retirement fund, and goals is basic. These are things that I require of myself, so requiring them of a man should not be a problem.

Black women just want and need from their black man the same things they require of themselves. Bring at least as much as I do to the table... Match My Effort! If you want to be upheld as a king or god, then BE a king or god. No longer will we put you up on a pedestal if you're not living up to your obligations. No woman wants to do all of the work in a relationship. We don't want to be the man and the woman, then what's the use of having a man? Yes we need you for sex, and we want great sex but that's not all there is to a relationship. Some men think sex alone will keep a woman or equates to a relationship. We WANT and NEED Men, not little boys. We want a mate, not a child to raise. Black love is not as hard or complicated as people have made it to be. We both have a role to play; sometimes the roles are very distinct then other times they overlap. The ultimate goal should be for us to WIN!

We Are More Than Enough

I didn't have to go to school to become a relationship EXpert. All I had to do was live and EXperience them. I write poetry books and relationship books about my own life experiences. I choose to write about what I know. I have experienced love and loss, and most of the time I've experienced both from the same person. I have been in a physically abusive marriage, and I've been in an emotionally abusive marriage. I have come in contact with soulmates, and I finally physically met my twin flame. In the twin flame union I've experienced immense love and passion, but also great pain. Throughout the most significant relationships in my life, even those with family members I began to lose part of myself. I wanted to make everyone happy at the expense of my own happiness. As a Leo I'm a very giving person and sometimes I give too much of myself. In the past I have changed myself to conform with other people's idea or image of me.

A couple of years ago I did some soul searching and some soul work to find ME, and what really makes me happy. I found that I AM: a healer, an empath, spiritual, and I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH!. I'm more than enough just the way I am, love me or leave me. Today I don't change to make others happy, I change and work on for me. I AM beautiful in all of my Godly glory. I found God on the inside of me(something religion never taught me). I've started eating more plant based meals, exercising, yoga, sage smudging, and meditating. I use essential oils and herbs instead of medicine for healing. I LOVE ME! I KNOW that I AM more than enough for whatever relationship, job, person. We are enough!