Black Love 101: What a Woman Needs Pt.2

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Akoma week officially begins February 14th and lasts until February 20th. Akoma week is the international alternative to Valentine's Day. Akoma celebrates 7 virtues and 7 principles for Black Love. The Akoma is an ancient African symbol of divine love and unity, and it's used to represent the sacred science of soulmating. The theme for this year's Akoma celebration is, "Black Love Is Winning". That should be every black couple's mantra for everyday.

Black women are looking for men who will see them as their equal while still understanding and recognizing their weakness. A King wants a Queen, someone who can run the kingdom in his absence. Black women need a man with whom they can be vulnerable, and be themselves with. Black love has endured many trials, many that were forced upon us but it's up to us to RECOGNIZE and RECTIFY. WE have to fix whatever problems we have as a black family. In the near future I will host another Sunday Purple Poet Live Black Love edition. I'm looking to have my brother and host of The Great Liberators Talk Show, Amiri Browner; and my friend and Best Selling Author Quinton Morgan. Quinton is known as "The Relationship Advocate", and he's the author of: "Male Baggage", "Female Baggage", and "Church HURT". These brothers will give us some insight on what men want and need in a woman. Amiri is happily married and Quinton is divorced after 25 years of marriage. Together these brothers bring a wealth of knowledge.

What I want and what I need from a man are basically one and the same. I need a man who listens, and not just talks. Many people don't realize it, but hearing and listening are two totally different things. We as strong black women want and need security and stability from a man. No woman past 25 years of age wants a man who is unstable. Later, sometimes earlier in life you begin to overstand what is important. You don't want to live for 50 years and all you've accomplished is having kids(that you don't take care of), or living with your mama and riding public transportation. We need to know we're safe with you in every aspect of the word. We want to share our deepest secrets without fear of shaming. We want to open up to you and share our lives. We need men who will physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially take care of us. We want a provider and protector. Just as men have expectations of us to cook, clean, wash his clothes, nurse and nurture you, be your sounding board, and be your sex slave. Women also have expectations. I was beginning to think that maybe my expectations were too high, but I'm a queen and my expectations are those of a queen. Expecting a grown man to have a job(business), car, his own place of residence, retirement fund, and goals is basic. These are things that I require of myself, so requiring them of a man should not be a problem.

Black women just want and need from their black man the same things they require of themselves. Bring at least as much as I do to the table... Match My Effort! If you want to be upheld as a king or god, then BE a king or god. No longer will we put you up on a pedestal if you're not living up to your obligations. No woman wants to do all of the work in a relationship. We don't want to be the man and the woman, then what's the use of having a man? Yes we need you for sex, and we want great sex but that's not all there is to a relationship. Some men think sex alone will keep a woman or equates to a relationship. We WANT and NEED Men, not little boys. We want a mate, not a child to raise. Black love is not as hard or complicated as people have made it to be. We both have a role to play; sometimes the roles are very distinct then other times they overlap. The ultimate goal should be for us to WIN!